There’s no sugar coating it – it hurts when he doesn’t acknowledge Mother’s Day.
He may not mean to, though it still stings.
Maybe he doesn’t realize how much it means to you.
Maybe he just doesn’t think about it or thinks Mother’s Day is for HIS mother only.
But either way, it hurts you when he doesn’t even say, “Happy Mother’s Day.” How can you tell him how unappreciated or unvalued and unloved you feel when he ignores Mother’s Day or completely disregards it?
How To Tell Him You Feel Unappreciated When He Doesn’t Acknowledge Mother’s Day
There are times when husbands forget to take out the garbage, the meat from the fridge to be grilled, or the lint collector in the dryer. We’re humans; it happens. But what if he forgets to do something for you for Mother’s Day? Or doesn’t even acknowledge this special day at all for you?
It hurts you.
You feel unappreciated like your role as mother isn’t worth anything to him. You feel like he doesn’t care about you or he would have remembered this one special day. It’s easy to start thinking he doesn’t love you anymore. If he can’t remember this, what else is he forgetting?
Or perhaps it’s not that he forgot. It’s just that he doesn’t think about things the way you do. To him, it may not be a big deal. After all, it’s just one day out of the year. It doesn’t have the same meaning to him as it does to you. To him, maybe Mother’s Day is only for HIS mom and not for you AS a mom (this was my ex-husband’s excuse as to why he never did anything for me for Mother’s Day. But that doesn’t make it hurt any less when he doesn’t do anything for you on Mother’s Day.
There could be tons of excuses for him in your mind, along with tons of condemnation too, so the best thing you need to do is brave it head on and tell him how you feel.
Follow these three ways to tell him how you feel when he doesn’t acknowledge Mother’s Day. But take heed: don’t say it in a snotty tone or be ugly about it. Just open your heart and reveal your pain to him. Avoid any arguments if possible because that’s not what you’re trying to achieve here. The goal is to tell him how upset it makes you when he doesn’t acknowledge Mother’s Day so that he can do better next year.
“It would mean the world to me if you got me a card or flowers on Mother’s Day.”
When he ignores Mother’s Day, tell him how much it would mean to you may help him understand how important this day is to you.
He may not realize that it’s such a big deal to you.
Once he knows how much it would mean to you, he may be more likely to do something for you on Mother’s Day.
“I feel unappreciated when you don’t do anything for me on Mother’s day.”
Telling him how you feel is important.
He needs to know that his actions (or lack thereof) are having an impact on you. He may not realize that he’s hurt you when he doesn’t acknowledge Mother’s Day.
His mind could be on a million different other things, and maybe you yourself have been unawares. But just let him know that you don’t feel appreciated or valued when he doesn’t do anything for you on Mother’s Day.
“I know you’re busy, but it would mean a lot to me if you could at least send me a text saying ‘Happy Mother’s Day.'”
Letting him know that you understand he’s busy and that you don’t expect him to do anything big, but that a simple gesture would mean a lot to you.
Explain to him EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT (and being honest in it, not beating around the bush, saying you want one thing, HOPING he will pick up the clue to know you want something else is NOT helpful with men). Most men value directness because that’s how their minds work. Be plain and truthful.
This may help him realize that it doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive – just something to show you he was thinking of you on Mother’s Day.
What You Need When He Doesn’t Acknowledge Mother’s Day
When he doesn’t acknowledge Mother’s Day, you might feel petty to even feel so down about it. But if it truly hurts you due to his lack of acknowledgment, then you need to tell him that. Otherwise, he’s going to continue forgetting it or thinking it’s not that big of a deal. And it could open new doors for other special occasions he could forget…like your birthday or anniversary!
A simple gesture goes a long way because it shows that he was thinking of you. It doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive. Just something to show he cares.
It could be a text, a card, flowers, or even just saying “Happy Mother’s Day” to you. These small things mean so much because it shows he was thinking of you on this special day. Tell him that when he ignores Mother’s Day, it makes you think he doesn’t consider you.
Because you deserve to be acknowledged and appreciated. You have put in a lot of hard work, time, and effort into your home and your life as a mother. Tell him how unappreciated you feel when he doesn’t acknowledge Mother’s Day, not even the slightest hint or gesture. Let him know that his lack of appreciation made you feel small and unimportant.
Don’t let him get away with not appreciating everything you do for him and your family. If he truly loves and cares for you, he will listen to what you have to say and make an effort to change his ways in the future.