Do you ever wonder and doubt yourself and the things you’re capable of?
It’s this tiny little and annoying voice that says, “You can’t,” “You won’t be able to,” “You are fake and no matter how much you try they’re all gonna find out anyways… So why do you even bother to get going? Give up.”
LET ME STOP YOU RIGHT THERE!
Don’t doubt yourself, you’re wonderfully made. You are capable and you need to believe it NOW! I know it is easier said then done, but I have put together an amazing free printable to help you cope with yours fears and doubts.
Are you ready?
They’re all gonna find out anyways
Anytime I go to publish something, create something, release something, it’s sure to happen…
This voice in my head that says, “Who the heck do you think YOU are?! Why would anyone listen to YOU? So many others are smarter, faster, more knowledgeable in this area. They have more skill than you, more fame, more sway, more recognition. Why would you even TRY? You KNOW you’re just gonna fail, Sarah!”
“You DO realize you’re not her, right? You’re NOT Sarah Titus, the Sarah Titus that everyone seems to think is perfect and has everything together. You know it. You know you’re just you. You fail. You cry. You break. You bleed. You get up and you fail some more. One day, they’re all gonna find out anyways: you DON’T have it altogether…you’re not as great as they think you are. You’re….just…you. You’re not GOOD ENOUGH to release….this course, this binder, this product, etc…”
Wow…the negative self talk is real and you know what…?
We ALL have it! We all doubt. We all tell ourselves we’re no good from time to time. It’s so common, it has a name.
It’s called, “Impostor Syndrome.”
Maya Angelou put it best when she said, “Each time I write a book, every time I face that yellow pad, the challenge is so great. I have written eleven books, but each time I think, ‘Uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody and they’re going to find me out.’”
It’s something that ALL successful people go through and if you don’t have a game plan to crush it when it comes on, you’ll end up crying in the corner of your room, sucking your thumb.
Trust me, I’ve been there. Okay, minus the sucking my thumb part. 🙂
I’ve let it take over my emotions before and I’ve seen it take over others emotions too. But I want better for you. I want better for me.
This week, has been all about pushing out fears. My biggest fears.
One of my biggest fears in my personal life, has been to start a new church. Because of what I went through in my old church, falsely accused, my best friends believing a lie and abandoning me, it’s been tough. I’ve struggled, in extreme torture for 11 months. I know I can’t forsake assembling together. I know I have to go, but when it’s so hard, when you’ve been burned, abandoned by people who should have known you better.
This week, I went to church. No, it wasn’t perfect. I came right on the minute it started, sat in the back, and was one of the first out the door. lol. And if you know anything about me, that is pretty typical of me. I’m an introvert, what can I say?!
But I was there! I went. I accomplished my goal. I obeyed God. I FACED MY FEAR!
Maybe your fear is saying, “Why start this business adventure? Who is going to listen to you? Why even bother? You’ll never make it.”
Listen, don’t sit there like I did, in fear for 11 months.
Today’s the day, that you crush your fears. That you go for what you want. That you say to yourself, I may not be the best at what I do, but you know what, I don’t HAVE TO BE the best. All I have to do is SHOW UP, every day, do my best work, love on people, serve others. If I can make even $1k/month doing that, doing what I love, living my purpose every day, being home with my kids, not having to go to some corporate job I loathe, then it’s enough.
YOU are good enough.
YOU are enough.
Sooner or later, Impostor Syndrome WILL come. When it does, be ready for it.
To help you prepare, I’ve put together a free coloring workbook for you.
Download the Impostor Syndrome Workbook Here
Tarah says
Sarah you know, I believe this syndrome effects alot of women. I’m a stay at home mother and I do take pride in what I do I’ve had that self talk and fear that others felt what I did wasn’t enough! When times got hard, Oh it really would hit me ever more then. I had to realize that I’m enough, and what others said I should do don’t matter. I believe that when it’s our time to fulfill a duty in our lives and even others lives, God will push us to it. God will show us the way, make it plain as day. I’ve felt something so deep burning inside of me to do and I haven’t been able to find it until now. It was in God’s time, not mine.
I’ve followed you for quite some time now and other bloggers as well. You set yourself apart because you are real, you speak to the world whole heartedly and I’d much rather follow and learn from a godly, honest woman. It’s not all about money, that’s not it. Life is about giving, what we can do to help others, that’s where our blessings come from. My dear, you are and will continue to be blessed for what you do to help uplift other women. You’re not just a teacher, but a mentor, and a true woman of God.
Thank you
Sarah Titus says
Tarah, thank you so very much for your encouragement, and kind and loving words. I understand the feeling you describe very well. It is so strong in many of us. I believe you will find the direction God has for you and will do something amazing in God’s time for your life. And, personally, I can’t wait to see what happens! <3
Nana Pennypockets says
Wow Sarah! What a great antidote for Impostor Syndrome. I love it. Now on my 3rd revision of topics for my site…… This is one I need right now. I’ve reached that point where I don’t care whether it’s what others say I should do – I’m ready to start doing what I want to do and don’t care if it’s ‘right’. If it’s ‘right’ for me then at least it’s me. Thanks for encouraging words and action steps.
Sarah Titus says
I’m so glad you found the post encouraging and inspiring. I’m glad you found the action steps helpful, too. Good luck with your new blog topics – I know you’re going to do a great job! Go for it and have FUN!!
Sarah Shull says
THANK YOU!!!! I say that with tears in my eyes, I most definitely NEEDED to hear this today.
Sarah Titus says
Sarah, I’m so glad you liked the post. It warms my heart to hear that something I’ve written has touched someone! Have a great day! <3
Kimberley says
Wow just like everyone else I needed to hear this today. I believe things happen for a reason. I have been neglecting my blog and listening to that little voice telling me… What makes you think your can talk about this or that…are you an expert?…
Every day I struggle with getting anything done. Yes, I’m a full time working mom and use excuses to not have “time” oday to work at my blog.
Most days I have to pep talk myself into getting things done. Im still chugging along.
Thank your for the inspiring words today.
Sarah Titus says
Hi Kimberley,
We all struggle with that little voice. Don’t listen to it! Be strong!
Blessings,
Sarah