As a single mom, our family is incredibly blessed. I get to stay home with my kids, work online, and be an encouragement to millions of other women. I’m literally living my dream life. But I wasn’t born into royalty and it didn’t come easy for me. In fact…
Six years ago, I was living in a homeless shelter and had $30k worth of debt. My ex-husband was on his 3rd affair and my kids and I had nothing except what I could pack in a small car. The shelter was dirty, people were always sick, the food was so old I wouldn’t serve it to a starving dog, and there were no windows. It seemed hopeless. Every morning I was woken up at 6 am by a woman who said it was for my own good. I was without God, alone, and scared. Forget about making ends meet, meat wasn’t even a possibility. I had been a stay at home mom my entire kids lives. I thought to myself, “Now what?”
Have you ever seen the movie Labyrinth? Sarah says “Through dangers untold and hardships unnumbered, I have fought my way here to take back what you have stolen.”
I felt like everything in my life had been stolen. The life and marriage that I knew for more than a decade was gone. In an instant, my life was turned upside-down.
But God answered my prayers. He showed me what real love was, and I fought. I fought long and hard and strong. Every ounce of strength came from the Lord. I put one foot in front of the other and again and again and again. Each day I started anew giving that day my all. I had no idea where I was going, but anywhere was better than there!
Slowly, with God’s help, I dug myself out of the pit, and just kept going.
I will never forget those days because…
it made me the person I am today.
I learned how to live on nothing, so when a little bit came, I was more than excited. I learned how to save for the things I wanted, instead of rushing out and letting my emotions take over my purchases. I learned how to squirrel away money; little by little it added up.
Most importantly, I learned success. I learned what it was and how to achieve it. I learned how to support my kids FROM home (I would not let a little thing like income, tear me apart from them. They had already lost their dad. I wasn’t about to let them lose me too!) I learned how to live WELL on $18,000/year at that time. I learned that if you spend wisely, you CAN have everything you want and more, no matter what your income!
That’s the reason I started this blog.
I believe that most women can quit working and stay home with their kids if that’s what they want to do.
Does it take sacrifice, yes, hard work, yes, but you CAN get there and I’m committed to showing you how!!!
The first thing I did was start selling on eBay full time. I was making good money, enough for a great life! I lived in THE MOST sought after subdivision in my area, had a 3 bedroom home, fenced yard, 2 car garage. I was living the good life for sure. I had gotten completely out of debt, just me and my kids. No roommates, just making it on my own with no family help.
But it wasn’t satisfying to my soul. I didn’t feel like I was helping people.
Meanwhile, my friends kept asking me how in the world I was able to live better than they were, on an income that was far less, poverty-level, to be exact.
The questions were flooding in and so I decided I would start up a thing called a blog. I figured it would save me time. Rather than telling each one of my friends all the answers, over and over and over, I’d write it down as emails to my friends and share the links whenever I’d get the questions.
Seemed simple enough, right?
I didn’t have to worry about blogging because the “posts” were just emails to my friends in a semi-private place. I didn’t spell check, I didn’t even capitalize the beginning of sentences. There was no structure, no form or correct paragraphs, nothing.
In November or December of that year, I stood before the judge in my divorce hearing. He asked me why I didn’t have a job yet. I told him that I did!!! He asked what I did. I told him that I was selling on eBay and doing well and that I was starting a blog.
I’m not talking a little bit wrong. It was like the sun fell out of the sky, jaws drop, WRONG answer!!!
To put it mildly, he didn’t like that. Insisted that it was unstable work for my family. Told me point blank that if I didn’t get a job outside the home to provide for my little ones, I could forfeit tens of thousands of dollars in the divorce. He acted like I didn’t love my kids, because I wasn’t willing to put THEM first. Because I wasn’t willing to leave them with a stranger all day long while I went out and worked a job.
I get it. I have plenty of banking experience (10+ years). In my field, I’m pretty high to the top with a college education to boot. It’s not that I CAN’T work. It’s not that I can’t make good, stable money working. It’s that I WANT TO BE HOME WITH MY KIDS!
The world doesn’t understand that.
I told the judge that I wasn’t going to leave my kids…
…my husband already did that, and that I believed in myself enough to know I could make money from home. Enough to squeak by at least. He asked how much I could make. I told him I thought I could make $1,000/month in profits. In my head, I thought, if I could make $500 from Ebay and $500 from the blog, I’d be okay. I could live on $1,000/month plus a little child support if granted.
He went on to ask me how long it would take to make that and I told him one year.
Give me one year and I will make $1,000/month from home, I said.
My lawyers, my Pastor, my friends, family, everyone in my life all told me to get a job. They BEGGED me. But, I knew in my heart, God was convicting me to start a blog and so, on Dec 23, 2013, I turned my blog ON. I clicked the button to go LIVE to the world, no spell check, no sentence structure and all. I figured all I had to do was make $500/month. Easy, right?
Wrong. It was HARD.
Although I started getting a ton of traffic right off the bat…more than 10,000 pageviews my first month and on to over 100,000 a few short months later, I wasn’t making as much money as I was putting in. I was losing money. I was spending money in all the wrong places, doing all the wrong things. I wish I could go back and hire me as a coach back then! I would have saved thousands of dollars!
My stats kept doubling and soon I was at nearly a million pageviews and December the next year, my 12th month blogging, I made a hair over TEN THOUSAND DOLLARS income…in ONE month!
When I figured out my income for the month, I cried hysterically. God did it. I did it. They were ALL WRONG!
My life has changed since that day, though I haven’t changed at all. The only thing I’ve done differently was move into my dream house. A 5 bedroom, 3 bath, 3 car garage, 2 story, granite kitchen countertops, garden in the backyard dream house. Still a single mom, I still live on little and am currently saving up to buy a house WITH CASH.
Today, I stand here as a successful single mom who’s overcome the worst of challenges. I stand here today…to inspire YOU.
There is nothing that can knock you down and defeat you, unless you let it.
So where are you at in your journey?
Do you feel like the bills and walls are closing in on you? Do you feel like you can’t seem to get your blog to make the income you know it CAN make? Do you feel stuck? Like you’ve lost hope and you’re spiraling? Maybe you feel like you should quit blogging.
Don’t quit. You can do this! I’ve been there, and I’m excited to show you how I overcame it all! I’m excited you’re here. Let’s walk this journey together! 🙂
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